The Mindful Survey: All By Myself

Answers from our reader survey on solitude

Do you identify as an introvert or an extrovert?

42% of respondents say they’re primarily introverts, compared to just 10% extroverts. 38% identify with both introverted and extroverted qualities. The last 10% don’t identify with either type.

Do you enjoy being alone?

# Alt Text A pie chart showing 95% yes and 5% no responses.

What do you do when you’re by yourself that you wouldn’t do with company?

  • “Raid the fridge and watch trashy TV.”
  • “Talk to myself.”
  • “Kayak.”
  • “Work in my garden and flower beds, walk my dogs, and play with my cats.”
  • “Most of my work is solitary.”
  • “I meditate, do yoga, and curl up to read a great book.”
  • “Cook something wonderful and eat it!”
  • “Wear only my underwear.”
  • “Dance under the stars on warm summer evenings, and in the living room on cold winter nights.”
  • “Take the time to be with myself. It’s really tough to do that with company.”

What’s your favorite thing about being alone?

  • “It helps me reconstruct my world.”
  • “The ability to control the level of noise.”
  • “No pressure to be ‘on’ or polite.”
  • “It makes me feel independent.”
  • “No drama!”
  • “I don’t have to cook.”
  • “I can feel sick and not worry about feeling that way in front of others.”
  • “That ‘ahhhhh’ feeling.”
  • “Noticing that I’m alone but not lonely.”
  • “The peace. The sweet hum of life. Resting my body.”

Are you afraid to be alone?

A pie chart showing 51% yes in pink and 49% no in cyan.

What’s your least favorite thing about being alone?

  • “No one to cuddle.”
  • “When everyone is at a social function but me, I suffer from FOMO.”
  • “Wishing I could share a beautiful experience with a friend or loved one.”
  • “I’m not always motivated to keep a schedule.”
  • “I hate when people question my preference for being alone.”
  • “When I’m alone, I can’t always be bothered to do special things just for myself.”
  • Anxiety can creep in.”

If you’re on social media, do you consider yourself to be alone?

A bar chart showing survey results with 62% answering "yes" and 38% answering "no."

What activities do you like to do alone?

The most popular solo activity we included is meditation, which 80% of respondents report doing by themselves. 63% also like spending time in nature, and 59% like to unplug from technology. 53% get their shopping done, while 49% watch TV and 40% do work. Only 32% enjoy eating alone.

How much of your time do you spend alone?

A bar chart showing the percentage of respondents who feel lonely based on the amount of time they spend alone, ranging from 28% at 25% time alone to 7% at 75% time alone.

Where do you go to be alone?

  • “My bedroom, or I stay up late in common areas when everyone else is in bed.”
  • “The bathroom, to have a relaxing bath.”
  • “My man cave.”
  • “I have two little kids, so I run and work out before they are up in the morning.”
  • “If at work, I go in an empty office and put a Post-it on the door that says ‘Conference Call.’”
  • “I don’t need to go anywhere: It’s a feeling and with me wherever I am.”
  • “Urban nature trails.”
This article appeared in the February 2018 issue of Mindful magazine.