Explore The Wisdom Behind Feelings of Longing

When we sit with our everyday feelings of longing, and get to know them on a deeper level, often we may find what it is we actually want.

I hope you’ve had some opportunities to practice with anger and anxiety from the last two classes. I also hope you’ve found benefit from resourcing and grounding yourself, and noticing what else is happening before attending to the felt experience of a difficult emotion.

We’re going to keep building on our skills—this time with a focus on longing or wanting or desire. For some of us, that might not be a difficult emotion; but for me it really is. I have a hard time with wanting. It feels like an incredibly vulnerable emotion. If I want something then I’ve opened myself up to the chance I’ll be disappointed. I may not get what I want. And in so many situations, I don’t have control over the outcome. In fact, in some situations it’s impossible to get what I want—for example, when something has been lost or I want something impermanent to stick around.

So to me, longing is a vulnerable emotion; but it’s also very important. Wanting is connected to our fundamental life energy: it directs us toward what we want in the world—where we want to go, what we value, what we want to create. Of course, longing can…

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About the author

Jessica Morey

Jessica is the co-founder, executive director and lead teacher of Inward Bound Mindfulness Education (iBme), a nonprofit that offers mindfulness training for teenagers, parents and educators. Jessica began practicing meditation at age 14 at the Insight Meditation Society teen retreats, where she has continued to practice mindfulness and compassion meditation for a quarter century. Over the past ten years, Jessica has taught mindfulness to thousands of teenagers and led over 60 week-long meditation retreats for adolescents. Before founding iBme, Jessica worked in clean energy and climate policy and finance. Read an article in Mindful Magazine, ‘Finding My Way,’ about her experience learning and benefiting from mindfulness throughout her young adult years.