What People Who Trigger Us Tell Us About Ourselves

Difficult people are messengers for our unhealed parts.

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We all have difficult people in our lives, it’s part of the human experience. Typically, we tend to see them as a nuisance, as individuals we have to put up with, or even avoid. This also comes with its share of suffering.

“The people who trigger us to feel negative emotion are messengers. They are messengers for the unhealed parts of our being” —Teal Swan.

This message is worth being curious about.

What if we could change our perception to seeing difficult people as messengers or teachers who arouse something inside of us that needs to be cared for or loved?

If we do this, might we become less reactive toward ourselves and other people? Inevitably, won’t this provide a chance for more relationships to improve? Might it be easier to let go of bitter grudges and move toward strengthening mindfulness, self-compassion, and forgiveness? This isn’t Pollyanna, it’s a practical approach that can help us focus more on what matters in life.

Moreover, consider this: If relationships improve, won’t that improve communities, regions and countries?

Is it possible to set off a spark in this way that leads to healing, not only our individual…