The global anti-racism protests have ignited a much-needed reckoning among many mindfulness practitioners about systemic racism. For 15 years, I have studied the nature of bias academically, contemplated its socioemotional impacts with over 10,000 hours of meditation, and trained more than 16,000 professionals nationwide in science-backed, compassion-based tools to break it. In this moment of reckoning, I offer you five tools that you can use anywhere, anytime to face and transform the virus of racial bias that still afflicts our hearts and minds. Rooted in the science of neuroplasticity, collectively these tools spell out the acronym PRISM: perspective-taking, pRosocial behaviors, individuation, stereotype replacement, and mindfulness. We begin with mindfulness and work our way backwards to perspective-taking.
1. Mindfulness
Mindfulness is the bedrock of breaking bias. It is the act of noticing or becoming aware of what is happening in the heart, mind, and body at the moment of contact with another person. Toni Morrison famously said, “Race is the least reliable information you can have about someone. It’s real information, but it tells you next to nothing.” Yet, even in 2020, I often get asked, “Where are you from?” “Brooklyn,” I reply to which they often retort, “No, where are you really from?” For people of color, this line of reasoning is all too familiar. I feel anger. I feel hurt. I feel othered. My thoughts are spiraling: Is it because my skin isn’t white that I can’t be from Brooklyn? Are you asking about my ethnicity? Why does that matter?
Toni Morrison famously said, “Race is the least reliable information you can have about someone. It’s real information, but it tells you next to nothing.”
This is where my mindfulness practice jumps in. It helps me acknowledge my feelings and thoughts. No longer denied—I know who I am and I won’t let this line of reasoning make me feel less than. I take a breath, and I respond. This takes daily practice, but underneath it is the resolve to not let myself believe other people’s ideas of me. Similarly, if you’re curious about someone’s ethnic background, can you bring mindfulness to why? What would that information help you deduce about that person? Are those deductions skillful, helpful, and onward leading?
2. Stereotype Replacement
Stereotype replacement is the active practice of visualization to break our mind’s habits of putting people into stereotypical boxes. For example, notice the first image that comes to mind when you read the word leader.
Did you think of Oprah Winfrey? Malala Yousafzai? Or someone who matches their racial, ethnic, gender, or age profiles? There’s no shame if you didn’t. This is about becoming mindful of our mind’s deeply habitual patterns. Now that you’re aware of that pattern, you can actively begin to build a repertoire of leaders who reflect our true human diversity. This transformative tool loosens the grip of your existing associations and can do wonders in a short time.
My student Sheryl, a Black woman who was the only executive of color at her company, for years felt like she had to fight against all of the conscious and unconscious biases that came her way daily. This made her feel exhausted and small. After learning about stereotype replacement, she built a vision board with images of powerful women, who like her withstood the test of hatred with poise, grace, and self-love. She turned to visual images of Ella Baker, Michelle Obama, and Wangari Maathai for guidance when she needed it most. Whenever she felt small, she visualized them. Within a week, Sheryl reported a new sense of confidence that was reflected in her tone, gait, and posture.
3. Individuation
Individuation is a practice that builds on the previous two to cultivate curiosity. In our interactions with others, we mindfully notice the stereotypes that arise in the mind and actively dissociate them from the person we are with. We allow ourselves to receive people for who they are instead of being stuck in our ideas of them.
For my student Arlene, a white corporate trainer and a committed mindfulness practitioner, this practice allowed her to become aware of the many unfounded stories in her mind about Black men, which she said, “often prevented authentic interactions.” The more she leaned into her curiosity about who these people were as unique individuals versus what her mind wanted her to believe, the more she felt connected to those people and to herself. This tool liberated her from years of racist conditioning.
4. Prosocial Behaviors
Prosocial behaviors are a set of tools that actively incline our minds toward positive feeling states, such as compassion, loving-kindness, gratitude, equanimity, generosity, joy, and forgiveness. When we cultivate these feeling states around the suffering of bias experienced by oneself and others, it helps build boundless resilience and courage. Research has also shown that it enhances trust and communication in intergroup contexts.
When we cultivate these feeling states around the suffering of bias experienced by oneself and others, it helps build boundless resilience and courage.
Exercising prosocial behaviors were crucial for my own healing of race- and gender-based trauma. For two years, I practiced twenty minutes of loving-kindness daily that began with myself and then zoomed out to other people. I visualized and brought loving-kindness for Black people suffering from the crises of poli