How to Be Alone, Mindfully (video)

Your brain needs downtime. Why not spend some time with yourself?

Illustration courtesy of Andrea Dorfman

Being alone can be scary. We often actively avoid it.

Tanya Davis is good with solitude. She wrote a poem called How To Be Alone, full of tips on the many ways you can come to enjoy being by yourself.

How To Be Alone—shared in both a YouTube video and an illustrated book by filmmaker and animator Andrea Dorfman—has received more than eight million online views.

As a yoga practitioner and meditator, Davis has found a way to deal with feelings of loneliness. She tells Mindful: “Sitting down, seeing the thoughts come and watching them dissipate while not holding on to them has become a real tool for me.”

Davis also has some suggestions for starting simply: go to the library, have dinner in a restaurant, take a stroll in the woods.

“It doesn’t mean you aren’t connected,” writes Davis. “Just take the perspective you get from being one person alone in one head and feel the effects of it. Take silence and respect it.”

Below are some illustrated suggestions from the How to Be Alone, courtesy of Andrea Dorfman.

An illustrated image depicts a pair of hands typing on a laptop, placed on a pink table. Beside the laptop sits a cup of coffee. The green background features handwritten text: "where you can get the caffeine fix and sit and stay there"—perfect for those figuring out how to be alone.

A woman wearing a pink dress with drops of water on her back. The text on her dress reads, "Dance until your toes sting and beads of perspiration remind you of life's best things down your back like a brook of blessings." Her left hand is raised to the side, embodying the essence of how to be alone gracefully.

Illustration of two pairs of high-heeled shoes, one red and one orange, against a vibrant blue background. Handwritten white text says, "And then take yourself out dancing to a club where no one knows you. Learn how to be alone and enjoy your own company.

A string of socks in various colors and sizes hangs on a clothesline against a bright blue background. The words "be patient" are written in cursive above the socks, offering a gentle reminder on how to be alone.

This web extra provides additional information related to an article titled, “Solitary Refinement,” which appeared in the June 2014 issue of Mindful magazine.